Divorce

Oscar Wilde once said, “Divorces are made in heaven.”

While in some circumstances, it may seem true but going through a divorce, even under the best of circumstances, can be one of the most stressful events you will face in your life. This stress is exacerbated if you and your ex have a child or children together.

So often couples are so focused on getting out and away from each other, that they forget that they are still inextricably tied to that ex-spouse for possibly decades as a result of children bore together. Issues with regard to visitation, holidays, education, discipline, or even dating will result at some point differing opinions.

The process before, during and after divorce can be devastating and destructive… resulting in high conflict to your immediate family, your extended family and closest circle of friends…but you are not alone.

You may not have known it, but you have options, in addition to working with an attorney and through the courts to help you get through. The following list are professionals recognized by the courts available to assist you with contentious issues or the numerous impasses that may occur:

• Parent Coordinator
• Divorce Mediator
• Parent Facilitator
• Family Mediator

These professionals are specifically trained and certified to work in a neutral capacity. The following is just a brief summary of what each does:

Divorce mediation is a voluntary confidential process that can be used before, during or after divorce or separation. Divorce mediators are equipped to facilitate conversations that establish mutually acceptable agreements. It is a highly effective win/win process when couples agree to voluntarily participate and far less costly over time, because you are able to stay out of the courtroom.

A Parent Coordinator (PC) or Parent Facilitator (PF) are neutral third party mediators with special training that is solution-focused on helping divorced co-parents resolve high conflict child related issues. Based upon their needs, the PC/PF can help former couples create workable parenting plans or other strategies that facilitate communication and resolve their problems as it relates to children. These professionals are governed under Texas state law, Sec. 153.606 and 153.6061 and may be appointed by a Judge.

A Family Mediator’s role is similar to those previously mentioned, however, they work with everyone in the family on all facets of issues in a closed confidential environment, facilitating open conversation. Similarly, family mediation gives all the parties the opportunity to speak and be heard in a low pressure environment, and affords everyone the opportunity to have all their concerns addressed.

So, you do have options! Use them. Instead of going to a court of law where the judge and attorneys will make decisions about your future, the couple gets to decide, and can save a ton of money in the process.

JPI is certified in all these areas. If you have additional questions or would like a free consultation, contact gcarroll45@gmail.com with JPI-Consultation in the subject line and we will get back with you soon.